I've learned that all a person has in life is family and friends. If you lose those, you have nothing, so friends are to be treasured more than anything else in the world.
Two weeks back I met a friend of mine, T, after four years. We had not spoken to each other much during that gap. We exchanged a few scraps on Orkut and even fewer e-mails and I think we spoke on the phone twice!!! And yet when I met her I was extremely happy to see her and it took us just about the whole afternoon to come out with all the significant and insignificant details of our lives in those few hours. We have known each other for over 20 years now!!! We were never the best of friends. We even fought so many times and over so many things. There was a time when we were barely on speaking terms with each other. But then all these bitter sweet memories have made our relationship stronger than ever.
Besides T there are other two girls whom I have known as long as I have known her. Again, we have never been the best of friends. We grew up together, studied in the same school and were part of the same family circle. I think as long as we were in school our identities were tied to each other. Then as we grew up, we did different things. We made different friends. Friends we chose for our selves because of the similarities we shared. I cherish the new friendships that have come my way. A few of them have significantly changed my life and have made me the person I am today and for that I am grateful.
But these three girls whom I am talking about are different and always will be. With them I share a bond. It’s like when u walk down a road in a strange land with strange people around, anything that is even vaguely familiar would bring a smile to your face and make you at ease. This is what I share with them. As I said we may not all be best of friends, there may not be a lot in common between us, but it is what we have shared that makes the bond so special. And what we have shared together is the most essential of all the experiences in our life – Our Childhood.
7 comments:
Childhhod friends are those with whom you experience many first, and thereafter those experiences become the defining stuff and any other experience is compared witht hem..
So having a happy childhood is great... lucky you.. you are in touch with three of them.. most don't get to keep in touch with current friends also
@ siraj
i know... u get to appreciate them, only when they are not around :)
I met a childhood friend of mine after 10yrs on Orkut and just talking abt all the fun stuff made me want to go back to tht time..its amazing how u hold onto all the times as a kid which help u grow as a person....
awright...u really did an awsome job of penning down the feelings we ve bin thru in the past few days...thats exactly how even i felt .
i loved ur comparison about th 'road in a strange land'. u very well caught our childhood in that cute parah///
however jus having a question...wen was that phase wen we were almost not on talking terms..honestly that cud not have bin intentional..prolly jus the busy lives..i cudnt eva intentionaly have those wierd phases with ya..can neva be angry with ya like that..
lastly i feel u haven chosen the apt pic..u n mithoo with short hair..me th straight n dimple the wavy hair one with a thing to read in hand..
@ tini
... that way back in school... oversome silly reasons... we havnt had a fight since then :P
Hey, youve put the whole thought beautifully !!! We all know each other since the time we were kids and we dint know pretence, falsehood...may be thats why such friendships have so much bonding :)The best part of ur blog are the last two words...
We may be continents apart, but a few words can make us feel together !!!
@ dreamy
.... it was soo sweet of you to comment back. Am happy that the three of you identify with what i had to say.... no matter what those experinces will always remain special to our hearts :)
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